Psychologistshavedonethis:byputtingafleainacup,afleacanjumpoutofacup.Thenthepsychologistputatransparentcoveroverthecup,andthefleawouldstilljumpup,butafterafewtransparentcovers,ithurt,andslowlyitdidnotjumpsohigh.Afterawhile,heremovedthetransparentcoverandfoundthatthefleastilljumpedsohighthatitcouldneverjumpoutofthecup.Inthelecture,parent-childeducationexpertswiththepsychologicalcasemakeparablesays,ifachildisthefleainthecup,theparents&39;negativeeducationliketheglassonthetransparentcover,limitingthechildren&39;sgrowthandpotentialoftheplay.Ifparentshavelongbeennegativetoeducation,it&39;seasyforkidstoloseconfidenceinthemselvesandneverhavethecouragetojumpoutofthatcup.Shesaidthatadultshavetwokindsofeducationforchildren,whicharepositiveeducationandnegativeeducation,generallypositiveeducationforchildrenisgreaterthan80%,negativeeducationhastobelessthan20%."Appreciateyourchild.Startwitheverylittlething,anddon&39;tusenegativewordstomakehimthefleainthatpoorcup."Parents,educationexpertssay.The"successbox"isfullofprogressManyparentswanttheirchildrentobeobedient,andeducationexpertsarenoexception.Sincethesonwasveryyoung,educationexpertshavepraisedtheirchildren:"mysonisveryobedientandnevermakesmeangry."Infrontofthechild,shewasmoregenerouswithherpraise.Whenafriendcomestovisit,theeducationexpertwillsay,"lookatmyson.Healwayswriteshishomeworkfirstandnevergoesaround."Themoreguests,themoreshesaid.Inherfrequentandunintentionalpraise,thesonbecamemoreandmoreconscious,andasexpected,shewasalwaysobedientandsensible,andseldommadeherangry.Educationexpertshavealsoprepareda"successbox"fortheirson,whichispackedintothechildren&39;sachievementsandprogress.Thefirstthingintheboxwasapaintingbyhissonwhenhewas1yearsold,andacrooked,twistedstraightlinewithafewirregularcircles,wasabunchofice-sugargourd."Canthisbeanachievement?"askedaparent,education."Childrenasyoungas1knowthatthesugargourdismadeupofsticksandrings,andthat&39;sgreat,"theeducationexpertsaidproudly.Thesonwenttokindergarten,andtheeducationexpertmadeasuccesstableforhim.Everystepofhisson&39;sprogresswasplasteredwithsymbolicthings.Today,theson&39;ssuccessboxisnolongerfit.Parentsshouldlearntofocusontheirchildren&39;sstrengthsandshowtheirchildren&39;sstrengths."Children&39;sstrengthscanbemadeoutofnothingandcanleadtocultivation,"saidaparent,education.It&39;snotthatchildrenhavenoadvantage,butthatsomeparentsdon&39;thaveavisiontofindthegoodintheirchildren.
